This is what I have learned from my past relationships:
That giving it your all is no guarantee, but give it your all anyway-every time. That the little things can be a big deal and the big things always somehow manage to get solved. That everything ends badly, otherwise it wouldn't end. That you know long before it's over that it will be. That love never ends, but it can change forms. That friendship is more important than lust-but don't discount the importance of lust. That you can cry on his shoulder while he massages your back-and those things you'd always heard about but dismissed as being physically impossible actually are not. That holding hands for the first time is more exhilarating than the seventieth time you have sex-even consistently great sex. That he WILL notice when the dishes are done and the house is clean. That "I love you" never loses its meaning, no matter how many times you hear it. That you can never hear "I love you" too much. That "I love you" doesn't mean enough. That it's no one's fault, but both of you are to blame. That the first kiss is the best-the one you'll always remember and compare all the others to, and they will always fall short. That after years you can know everything about someone and they can still surprise you. That you never know everything about someone-and they'll always surprise you. That not all surprises are good ones. That listening is the more important aspect of keeping the communications open. That crying for no reason, or for the best reasons, is for naught unless he understands why you're crying. That he can understand why you're crying even when you don't. That he can understand why you're laughing even when you don't. That watching his favourite movie isn't as fun without him there-nor is watching yours. That life happens despite and to spite and in spite of your plans. That even though you follow him to the ends of the earth, sometimes coming back you're alone. That there's not a lot there at the ends of the earth, but it's worth it-the journey is about the company, and the love you share along the way. That your second love will never compare to your first, so don't take notes. That the person who said "'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" was an idiot. That even though you have loved and lost-and died because of it-you still want to love again.
Laters
That giving it your all is no guarantee, but give it your all anyway-every time. That the little things can be a big deal and the big things always somehow manage to get solved. That everything ends badly, otherwise it wouldn't end. That you know long before it's over that it will be. That love never ends, but it can change forms. That friendship is more important than lust-but don't discount the importance of lust. That you can cry on his shoulder while he massages your back-and those things you'd always heard about but dismissed as being physically impossible actually are not. That holding hands for the first time is more exhilarating than the seventieth time you have sex-even consistently great sex. That he WILL notice when the dishes are done and the house is clean. That "I love you" never loses its meaning, no matter how many times you hear it. That you can never hear "I love you" too much. That "I love you" doesn't mean enough. That it's no one's fault, but both of you are to blame. That the first kiss is the best-the one you'll always remember and compare all the others to, and they will always fall short. That after years you can know everything about someone and they can still surprise you. That you never know everything about someone-and they'll always surprise you. That not all surprises are good ones. That listening is the more important aspect of keeping the communications open. That crying for no reason, or for the best reasons, is for naught unless he understands why you're crying. That he can understand why you're crying even when you don't. That he can understand why you're laughing even when you don't. That watching his favourite movie isn't as fun without him there-nor is watching yours. That life happens despite and to spite and in spite of your plans. That even though you follow him to the ends of the earth, sometimes coming back you're alone. That there's not a lot there at the ends of the earth, but it's worth it-the journey is about the company, and the love you share along the way. That your second love will never compare to your first, so don't take notes. That the person who said "'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" was an idiot. That even though you have loved and lost-and died because of it-you still want to love again.
Laters
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